Do we spend our whole lives stuck in patterns we cannot recognize?

it doesn't seem to me that those patterns/behaviors are necessarily bad or inappropriate...perhaps mowing the lawn diagonally is aesthetically pleasing, folding the towels just so is perfectly efficient, etc...and these patterns are indeed recognizable and makes the person feel comfortable, routine establishes comfort... so these patterns aren't damaging...however, those patterns that may be detrimental (seeking abusive partners, relying on substance to quench an emotional thirst), are the ones that require some intervention (though the end result is still in trying to find 'comfort')...however, most human beings require routine, patterns, and familiarity, one cannot live in chaos for long...though many try :)